It’s Monday morning, and on Friday I have my hysterectomy. On top of that, it’s day 2 of month end, and I’m very tired already. It’s going to be a hectic week.
I had a great weekend, though.
Friday night I was going to get drinks with Cat and Robyn to say bye-bye to my uterus… but it was the first day of month end and I was tired, and I really just wanted Chris time. So, I cancelled that.
When Chris got there, we spent what I would consider an inordinate amount of time just hugging and kissing in my living room. We do that a lot when we see each other. I didn’t get to see him at all last week, and I missed him. I missed SOOOOO much, and thankfully he felt similarly. We are… very addicted to each other. It’s a weird feeling. I’m getting used to it, though. After we got over the wave of affection, we decided to get Chipotle and Goodtimes Custard for dinner, and watch some Umbrella Academy. It wasn’t an eventful night, but it was nice.
Saturday morning we spent about half the day in bed with a mixture of sexy time and snuggling, which was super nice. When we finally did get up, I made him some eggs and me some grits, and we watched more Umbrella Academy. Then we loaded up and headed to Englewood. The Englewood Library has a bunch of stuff in it, including an art exhibit called Natura Obscura. Originally, Rob was going to take Amber, but they ended up going to Whimsy Con instead, and he gave the tickets to Chris. (The great thing about both Chris and Rob is that Amber and I are art nerds… what works on one of us will likely work on the other one. I’m a bit darker, and she a bit more whimsy, but you can’t really go wrong with an art exhibit.)
We had no idea what to expect, really. I’d briefly googled the exhibit to see what it was, but I didn’t really get into it, if you know what I mean. So we go and we’re given black light flashlights. I’m immediately intrigued. There’s also a phone app to go with it, and when you find these little placards with these little animals on it they talk to you via app! So we go in and it’s like a black light forest scene. You shine the light around and there’s secret stuff in black light paint everywhere… it’s SUPER COOL. Then you go into this area that looks like the inside of my head. Just STUFF everywhere. Fascinating clutter jammed together to represent different stories. Alice in Wonderland, of course, Beauty and the Beast, Little Red Riding Hood… the three blind mice was my favorite because it was just 3 rat tails in jars in a shadow box with silhouettes of the mice. It was cute. It made me wanna art. I took tons of pictures. Then there were some other rooms with interactive stuff: a 30 minute meditative experience, a room that had tubes that light up and play sounds when you touch them, a swing in the middle of a cloud room that plays thunder noises and flashes lights like lightning when you swing, a room full of weird inflatable things, and a room that was all black with a molecular diamond structure in it… I didn’t like that last one because one whole wall was motherboards and it would randomly light up like it was struck by lightning, but I couldn’t figure out what kind of timer it was on, so it startled me every time. Lol. It was super fun, though. I loved it. He loved it. Then we went to get pho.
Chris picked the pho, but come to find out he’d never actually eaten pho. So we got in and ordered and they brought out the plate of garnishes and he was just like, “I have no idea what that is…” So I explained pho to him, and lip synced some ridiculous old love songs that they were playing overhead. There’s nothing more fun than dramatically lip syncing My Heart Will Go On in a public place, and I will physically fight anyone that says otherwise. Lol. We only managed about half the pho and had to take the other half home. We had fun, though!
When we got home we watched some Umbrella Academy and then went to Mom’s for pizza and a movie. We got pizza and wings, and we watched Isle of Dogs. I didn’t know that movie was an adult movie. It looks like a kid movie, but it absolutely is not. We pretty much laughed through the whole thing, because that is the driest, hilarious movie I’ve seen in a long, long time. It was a really good time. Sal and Garner love Chris, and even Ava and Guy got in on his snuggly personality. My mom just laughed. We ended up staying up for a while when we got home so the dogs could eat and stuff. We finished Food Wars (Shokugeki no Soma) and watched some stand up. It was SUCH a great day. I was just happy to be with him, and he said the same.
Sunday morning the dogs tried to wake us up early, and I got mad about it and ended up locking everyone in the kennels and going back to bed… but of course I couldn’t sleep, so while Chris slept I drank pumpkin tea, read, and listened to some lo-fi hip hop. When he started waking up we switched to a new playlist I’m curating that’s got Orgy and Nine Inch Nails, and other mainstream Industrial Dance artists on it. It’s a good mix of stuff I can dance to and stuff he peripherally listened to in high school. We both kept going, “I haven’t heard this in FOREVER.” We played phone games and snuggled, and eventually snuggled up with the dogs, too. When we got up we watched the end of Umbrella Academy, which is KILLER by the way, and then went to the bedroom for some… sexy time.
After that he had to go pickup Addi. I ended up taking a nap.
What I left out was some news I got.
A, Addi is going to school in Greeley next year. That means that she’ll be moving up there when school ends and we’ll get her every other weekend. I think that’s going to be good, because it gives us time to see if he likes living with me, but also to redo the house, and time for Chris to figure out if he’s going to trade school. He wants to be an electrician, he thinks. It’s really important to me that even though she’ll only be coming weekends, that she has a room and it is HER room. I didn’t have a room at my dad’s. It was a spare bedroom they did laundry in. Nothing I owned lived there. It wasn’t MINE. I want to be sure she knows that’s HER room and she’s welcome to it whenever she likes. Hopefully, in the future, we can get a slightly bigger house with another bedroom so we can have a room for Brinley, too. But that’s a ways off. She only visits every few months… but as she gets older he might wanna come more, and I want to make the house welcoming for her.
2, The GM of the store I got offered a promotion to called. We had lunch last Monday to discuss it, and I spent the time emphasizing I could definitely do the job, but that it has to be worth it, and that I value family time with my partner and his daughter, etc. I also asked for a pretty substantial raise to even consider it… and he called me Saturday before we went to Natura Obscura and let me know they’re interested. He said to call him when I’m back from FMLA so we can talk actual money and how the move will go down should I accept the position. It would be closer to home, and it’s a great opportunity. I just… have to make sure I’m getting what I’m worth. I’m sad about leaving mom alone, but also I know she’s not going to work in the biz forever. It’s important I do what’s right for me and MY plans. This move and raise would be good for me, but also helps establish that I can help mom in the future. So.. If they stick to the pay I asked, I think I’ll end up taking it.
I had a panic attack about everything… because I worry I’ll make the wrong choices… but Chris is right… you just have to make a choice and ride it out. And he’ll be there to hold me when I’m overwhelmed, and we’ll make whatever happens work. #SuspiciouslySupportive I love that nerd…